To answer this quickly: ABSOLUTELY!
We understand your hearts behind asking this question – you want to help us figure out another way to follow our dreams.
Give me a moment to go a little deeper with this answer. Jake and I had decided when we were engaged that we would love to adopt some day – regardless of if we have biological children or not. This has always been on our hearts. However, we have not given up on our hope to have biological children as well. There is something so special and amazing to have a sweet little baby growing inside of you. Knowing that you and the love of your life created another life together. How amazing is that?! Literally brings tears to my eyes when I think about that. An outward and growing expression of our love – makes my heart skip a beat. I understand pregnancy is not always the most fun, but I cannot wait until I can feel the precious little flutters, kicks, and rolls. There is nothing to replace that, not even close.
For our first adoption (in the future), Jake and I would love to adopt a newborn. I think it would be very important and valuable to us as parents to experience the newborn stage. We have spoken to many couples that have adopted, and this was their thoughts as well – across the board – especially if our hearts were leaning in that direction. It was also brought up to us to adopt children in order by age – something we had never thought about before.
COST: Many believe we could save more money by adopting rather than going the route of IVF (praying we do not need to). However, adoption costs upwards of $30,000 and IVF is about $20-30,000 (depending). So for us, we would rather initially invest in IVF. Is this selfish, I really don’t think so.
Someday, we will adopt. It is our heartbeat. To give a home, a family, and LOVE to children who are not currently receiving that. This moment, we feel the Lord is continuing to lead us in the direction of pregnancy. This may change, but in the meantime – we ask for your continued love, support, prayers, and understanding.
“Never give up on your dream of being a Mom (Dad)”